Letter: Words of wisdom

POSTED: 10/20/11 1:54 PM

Dear Editor,

“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.” – Albert Einstein

“It is a painful thing to look at your own trouble and know that you yourself and no one else has made it.” – Sophocles

“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” – Denis Waitley

What is one of the most boring and tiresome words ever? Like discipline, responsibility is one of those words you have probably heard so many times from authority figures that you’ve developed a bit of an allergy to it. Still, it’s one of the most important things to grow and to feel good about your life. Without it as a foundation nothing else here or in any personal development book really works. So today I’d like to explore personal responsibility with the help from some timeless thoughts on the topic.

  1. 1.      There is always a price to pay.

“Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves” – Friedrich Nietzsche

“Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it.” – George Bernard Shaw

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”
Not taking responsibility may be less demanding, less painful and mean less time spent in the unknown. It’s more comfortable. You can just take it easy and blame problems in your life on someone else. But there is always a price to pay. When you don’t take responsibility for your life you give away your personal power and more.

  1. 2.      Build your self-esteem.

“Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the high road to pride, self-esteem and personal satisfaction.” – Brian Tracy.

The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion

Why do people often have self-esteem problems? I’d say that one of the big reasons is that they don’t take responsibility for their lives. Instead someone else is blamed for the bad things that happen and a victim mentality is created and empowered. This buy valium legally damages many vital parts in your life. Stuff like relationships, ambitions and achievements. That hurt will not stop until you wise up and take responsibility for your life.

There is really no way around it. And the difference is really remarkable. Just try it out. You feel so much better about yourself even if you only take personal responsibility for your own life for day.

This is also a way to stop relying on external validation like praise from other people to feel good about yourself. Instead you start building stability within and a sort of inner spring that fuels your life with positive emotions no matter what other people say or do around you, which brings us to the next reason to take personal responsibility.

3. Give yourself the permission to live the life you want.

“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.” – George O’Neil.

By taking responsibility for our lives we not only gain control of what happens. It also becomes natural to feel like you deserve more in life as your self-esteem builds and as you do the right thing more consistently. You feel better about yourself.  This is critically important, because most often it’s you that is standing in your own way and the way of your success. It’s you that start to self-sabotage or hold yourself back in subtle or not so subtle ways once you are on your way to the success you dream of. To remove that inner resistance you must feel and think that you actually deserve what you want. You may be able to do a little about that by affirmations and other positive techniques. But the biggest impact by far comes from taking responsibility for yourself and your life by doing the right thing.

  1. 3.      Taking action becomes natural.

“Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion. 

We conclude it is wise to use personal responsibility and freewill.

 

Miguel Arrindell

The Patriot

 

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